Comments on: The Ministry of Being a Mother

By: Jo-Ann Brightman

Jo-Ann Brightman — Sun, 01 Sep 2013 19:44:00 +0000

Your article was very interesting and should convince some stay-at-home moms that what they are doing is a ministry. Each person has to take his/her own path and with God’s help it will be the right one.

By: Denise Taylor-Dennis

Denise Taylor-Dennis — Thu, 29 Aug 2013 13:13:00 +0000

I really enjoyed reading this article. I have not been able to be a stay at home parent. I was a single parent with my daughter who is now 19. I am married now and still work and my 3 year old goes to a preschool daily. We all travel different roads you just have to rely on God and try to do the best whatever road you travel.

By: peg5

peg5 — Thu, 09 May 2013 06:14:00 +0000

such a compassionate post, especially for those that question themselves for making the choice to be a SAHM…i did it and it was hard but sooo worth it. we went without but gained so much in return.

By: Stay at Home Mom of Three

Stay at Home Mom of Three — Wed, 31 Oct 2012 19:39:00 +0000

And what are you supposed to do when you keep being told you should work or you have to? I am a stay at home mom with 2 autistic boys and a girl; because of difficulties with the special school one of my sons was at, I now home school him. My husband is the sole provider for our family and we are on the poverty level income wise. I receive only food stamps and medicaid for the children, and keep hearing that since my son is over a certain age, I need to be working in order to keep those meager benefits (ironically, if I worked I wouldn’t need or qualify for those benefits anyways). We bought a foreclosed home at a steal, have previously owned cars we paid cash for, buy on clearance almost all of the time or at thrift stores, and “rescue” things others discard.I am doing the job that the school is supposed to be doing and not getting paid, therefore I don’t have the time or ability to bring in any income. I spend easily 10, 12, or more hours a day working with my son on his schooling because he struggles so much. I myself am legally disabled but cannot get benefits because I became ill immediately after my first child and didn’t have enough time in the system even though I had worked since I was 16 years old.Plus back then there was so much I could still physically do and didn’t feel right in trying to collect when there were others worse off than myself. Now, since I am not on disability I have been told then that I should be working even if I am ill.

I hate to tell you, but unless you marry someone who makes enough money to support a family on ONE income, in today’s economic environment, you are sunk. I too believed in staying home and being there for my children. It’s the rest of the world that doesn’t want that. Women are expected to be out there working and keeping up with the men. No one cares about family anymore.Especially our government. I was told by my “Christian” sister in law to be grateful for what I have and stop complaining. I merely was expressing what a struggle it was daily JUST to survive and come up with necessities, let alone a few fun things. What is the point in living if you are only surviving? Is THAT what God had in mind? It’s NOT what I was taught. It must be nice to have upwards of $250,000 a year that her HUSBAND earns. Makes it easy to make judgements about situations one never has to deal with too.I know her kids don’t have to wear second hand clothes, tell her they are hungry, or go without a floor in their room. Her daughter turned up her nose at the Wal mart clothes we bought her and said they weren’t fancy enough.Yes, I am grateful that we are alive, together and not homeless, but I am also tired and worn out. In the last month my 2 best friends have died. All I am saying is that for some of us out there, it is a real nightmare doing the right thing and a little understanding and compassion from others would help a lot. To those who behave this way, please quit turning a blind eye because it is too scary to believe that we really live like that, and that it could be you in an instant.And don’t pass judgement and spew your “christaineses” at us when all we really want is a little support and encouragement.

Yes I am a Christian, but I am disgusted by so many who claim to be also, and just spit out these religious “cliches” because they don’t know what else to say or do, or are too afraid it could happen to them.

By: MrsAshley

MrsAshley — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:55:00 +0000

In reply to ShaVonne. That's wonderful to hear!

By: ShaVonne

ShaVonne — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:52:00 +0000

Thank you for your insight, I enjoyed your article, it was very encouraging.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 04:13:00 +0000

In reply to Casselliny. I'm glad this was a blessing to you! :)

By: Casselliny

Casselliny — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 04:06:00 +0000

wow… you dont know how long ive been looking for a artical like this one. I am 25 and stay at home mom and homeschooler (wife too.. 🙂 and have struggled with God’s will concerning outside ministry.. especially because i have a passion for evangilizing. I see more and more that the Lord will bless me with time to do that AFTER my priorities are in place.God.. husband .children.home.or (homeschooling..lol) then minitstry.. thank you for bringing balance and of cource reminding us to let God lead!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 04:16:00 +0000

In reply to Andreaforester30. I'm glad to hear it! :)

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 04:15:00 +0000

In reply to Nora. I've been there before and I'm glad this was an encouragement to you! God bless you!